Pubdate: Wed, 30 Jan 2002 Source: Hamilton Spectator (CN ON) Copyright: The Hamilton Spectator 2002 Contact: http://www.hamiltonspectator.com/ Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/181 Author: Catherine McPherson-Doe CONFIDENT KIDS STAY OFF DRUGS RE: 'Can't scare all kids straight' (Jan. 22) It has been demonstrated through research that strategies that attempt to scare kids straight are largely ineffective, and worse, may reduce the credibility of adults and the willingness of youth to use them as sources of support and guidance. I expect that Prince Charles reacted with shock and fear when learning of his son, Prince Harry's use of marijuana and these emotions drove his actions. Many parents in these circumstances experience panic and a strong need to protect their children, which often leads to quick, controlling responses such as consequences and stronger rules. These types of responses may do little to help youth develop the assets necessary to handle the many issues of life related to family, school, peers and their futures. Youth need to be valued, listened to and supported in learning strong coping, relationship and communication skills. This needs to occur at a community level, within families and within schools. There are many factors, which can contribute to a youth moving beyond experimental use of substances to problematic use. Stress, isolation, mental health concerns, family or school difficulties can all be factors and scare tactics, rules or consequences will not change these. The youths' individual circumstances and feelings need to be understood and a collaborative plan worked out to increase their ability to successfully manage their lives. Although drug and alcohol use may be seen as a part of growing up, the consequences of even experimental use can be serious. It is risky business for youth who have developed limited coping skills to experience a quick, easy means of handling the many stresses of everyday living. Finding this means of coping often can prevent the learning of other more functional, healthy ways. It is important to take youth substance use seriously. We will be more effective in supporting youth to be strong, competent adults if we talk with them in a way that promotes their skills, self-knowledge and confidence rather than in a way that invites fear, rebellion and secrecy. - -- Catherine McPherson-Doe, executive director, Alternatives for Youth. - --- MAP posted-by: Jay Bergstrom